How to change your thoughts to create a successful life
If you are in the process of growing a blog or creating an online business, then you know how stressful each day can be.
There always seem to be a million things you need to do and when you mix your business to-do list in with your home and life to-do list, sometimes you just want to give up and crawl under a blanket with a pint of Ben and Jerrys.
When you begin to feel stressed out about all the work that needs to be done each day and you begin to focus on those feelings of overwhelm, you begin to create more and more stressful feelings.
It’s a vicious cycle we create for ourselves by focusing on what we don’t want instead of what we do. If you can learn to change your thoughts, you can create the successful business and life you desire most.
Are you attracting more of what you don’t want into your life?
I’ve studied the Law of Attraction for well over 10 years. I’m fascinated by how powerful our thoughts are and the theory behind what you think about most, you create more of in your life.
You have between 60,000 to 70,000 thoughts race through your head every single day, and the majority of those thoughts tend to be on the negative side.
We think about something bad that happened to us yesterday, or a job we don’t like, or all the things we have to do that we don’t think we have enough time for. The list goes on and on and on.
Did you know that when you think a thought, you are actually creating and releasing energy? Each thought you think has a certain vibration. Negative thoughts vibrate on a lower frequency and positive thoughts vibrate on a higher frequency.
The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. So if that’s the case, then the more positive thoughts you have, the more positive things you attract into your life.
But the same can be said for negative thoughts. The more you think about and focus on the stressful and overwhelming thoughts, the more stress you attract into your life.
Think about that for a moment.
Take a look at how your life is going for you right now. Is everything working out just the way you want it, or do you feel like you are barely getting through most days?
Now, what do you spend most of your time thinking about each day? Is it everything you are grateful for in life, or more that you have too much on your plate and can’t ever get where you want to go?
By learning how to change your thoughts, you can begin to attract more of what you actually want into your life.
What you think about most you attract more of
So if you feel like you fall more onto the side of focusing on all your problems and the stresses of everyday life, I hate to tell you but you are a magnet for attracting more of the same into your life.
I get it, life can really suck sometimes and there seems to be no end to all the struggles we have to face every day.
But there is a way to begin to retrain your brain to focus on more of what you should be thinking about and less about what you need to let go of. It is possible to begin to change your thoughts so you can design your dream life.
How to focus on what you want so you can change your thoughts to create a successful life
If you are ready to learn how to change your thoughts to create a successful life, here are two simple steps to get you on your way.
1. Become aware of what you think about each day
This is the first and most important step to learning how to shift your focus to a more positive direction. If you don’t know what you are thinking about each day, then you can’t become aware of what you need to change.
Each day, begin to notice when you start to think about something negative or something that upsets and stresses you out.
Notice how it makes you feel. Do you feel anxious, fearful, angry or stressed? Do you begin to spiral into other negative thinking patterns which cause you to feel more negative emotions? Do you find yourself getting angry or upset over insignificant things?
Once you begin to pay closer attention to your daily thoughts, you will begin to see a pattern in how they begin to create more and more negative thoughts and emotions which can eat away at your daily life.
2. Learn to stop and refocus negative thoughts
Now that you are becoming more aware of the negative thoughts running through your mind each day, it’s time to begin working on changing your focus.
The more you are able to successfully practice this each day, the easier it will become. Eventually, you will be able to stop a negative thought from ever spiraling out of control, which will leave you more time in your day to focus on what matters most.
I’ve found 2 ways to stop negative thoughts and redirect them into a more positive place. There are many other amazing ways you can create more positivity within your thoughts, but the two that I’m about to share with you are very simple and anyone can do them.
Think about something that makes you happy
I know, way to simple, right?
So here’s the thing, when you begin to understand just how many times each day you focus on all the things going wrong in your life, you have to find a simple way to begin to stop the thoughts before you get sucked into the negative thought vortex. Yep, it sometimes feels like a vortex to me.
Fun Fact: when you start thinking about something that really stresses you out or upsets you, your brain creates a special cocktail of chemicals that your body loves. They get released in your body and this causes you to feel the emotion that goes with the thoughts you are thinking. That’s why you begin to feel anxious, depressed, angry or emotional. The thoughts you think release the chemicals and the body creates the feelings to match.
When the body is then ready for another round, it lets your brain know that it’s time to prepare another cocktail. The brain says, “hang on a sec, we need to keep thinking about what stresses us out so I can make more chemicals.”
And this is how you get sucked into the negative vortex of thinking and feeling, feeling and thinking.
So if you are ready to begin changing this process so you can live a more fulfilling life and become successful in your business, simply exchange the negative thoughts as you catch them for positive ones.
Think about someone you love, your pets, your dream vacation, the money you want to have in your bank account.
Heck, do like I tell my daughter to do at night when she’s afraid to go to sleep which is to think about the cutest thing you can possibly imagine – that you are covered in pink fluffy baby bunnies and tiny baby ducks. I mean, who can be mad at that.
But seriously, if you are not sure if you can think of anything at that very moment, have something ready to go in advance to make it a little easier.
This is another simple yet extremely powerful way to begin to reshape your thinking. When you are so focused on all the difficulties of life, you forget how much you have to be grateful for.
You may not feel that way at this very moment. You may have some really difficult challenges you are facing, but I promise, there is a ton to be grateful for, you just need to find it.
When I first began this practice of replacing negative thoughts with gratitude, the easiest thing was just to look around the room and be thankful for anything and everything.
Of course, you can always include the big things – family, home, cars, food, pets, friends, etc. But how about the smaller things like hot water and toilet paper . . . well, unless you just ran out of toilet paper.
The more you begin to think about what you have to be grateful each day, the less you focus on all the negativity that clogs up your mind, and the more room you create for creativity and positive growth in your life.
If you want to create a successful life, you must change what you think about and focus on
If you are looking around at how your life is going and it’s not what you had hoped for, it may be time to take a good hard look at what you think about each day.
Realize that you have so much more control of things than you think. And by simply learning to become aware of what you think about and learn to redirect it in a more positive way, you will begin to see amazing changes in your life.
Where you once felt stuck and miserable, you will begin to see solutions and happiness that wasn’t there before.
Life is not meant to be spent worrying about what’s mostly out of your control, but to be lived and enjoyed to the fullest. We all have that ability inside of us and it all begins by becoming aware and changing your focus.